Although the press is having a FIELD DAY skewering NYC congressman, Anthony Weiner, the situation brings up something that pretty much EVERY person in the public eye may face–a dicey situation coming up in the press and our decision to lie and hope it goes away or to tell the truth and face a potentially career-ending public shaming (not to mention the effect it will have on those we love).

I’m not saying everyone has something to hide, but it was fascinating, yesterday, watching Weiner’s press conference where he came clean and took responsibility for all that he had done. He held himself up to the press, his constituents, and everyone else who happened to be watching TV when every other show got preempted for his press conference, and did what I, personally, think is an extremely admirable thing: he told the truth. (more…)

Two weeks ago, I had back-to-back trips. First, I was out of the country and then, once back in the country, I was home for less than 12 hours and then on my way out of state, and then, once home, my schedule was still packed. Although I’d met a number of great people along the way and had good trips, I realized the the only person I’d spoken to consistently in all that time was my cat sitter...
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With your career in full swing, you’re busy, you’re running around all over the country, sometimes, all over the world, your schedule is ridiculously unpredictable. One moment you’re totally excited, the next, you’re nervous and stressed out, the next, you’re catching up on sleep, the next, “Wait, what city am I in? What time zone is it?”

When you finally get a moment of actual FREE time, you want to connect with your friends and family. You want to share your highs and lows with them. But if you call them now, they’re at work. Or asleep. Or, huh? You got them on the phone, but they don’t really seem that interested in what you have to say! In fact, they actually sound irritated with you—and while you want to tell them all about this amazing experience you’ve just had, they want to talk about their job that’s exactly the same as the last time you talked to them? The silly thing their kids just did? The dog?

Wha????

What happened to your number one supporter? Why are they so annoyed? Don’t they GET that this is what you’ve worked all your life for and you want to share it with them?

The problem? Your friendship just became one-sided…

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I’m sure you’ve heard the (supposedly) motivational words, Failure Is Not An Option , as a way to inspire people to do great things. It makes great ad copy when selling sneakers or gatorade, and it ALWAYS makes for stirring interviews when people like Donald Trump, Olympic gold medalists, and award winners from every walk of life say it.

The Failure Is Not An Option perspective is a state of mind that can be extremely useful in helping us to keep moving forward no matter what setbacks come our way. But it can also do the EXACT OPPOSITE…

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Michael Jackson’s memorial service ended a few minutes ago and besides the tears and the laughter that I am grateful to have been able to share with everyone else who was watching it on TV or present in the Staples Center in LA, I was reminded, in such a poignant way, why I do what I do for a living… (more…)

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When was the last time you took time off? Even just a day or two?

For many of us, we don’t even remember what a day off is-since we mix our work and home lives together so much that to have a 24 hour period (even a 12 hour period!) where we spend time just relaxing and not working is a rarity.

I took a few days off last week. I visited one of my best friends for her birthday and had the benefit of actual DAYS OFF while I was there. What did I do during that time? Well, we did some shopping, went out to eat a couple of times, sat on the couch, watched TV, talked, and played with her puppy. THAT’S IT.

But what was most significant about what I did during that time wasn’t the activities-it was my ATTITUDE about the activities. (more…)

In Rhonda Britten’s book, Change Your Life in 30 Days, she asks the question, “Are you making it up or is it true?” Designed for people to ask themselves when they find they are beating themselves up, making assumptions about some situation that’s bothering them.

We all tend to tell ourselves fantastically creative (yet thoroughly untrue) stories about what the other people in our lives are thinking or intending when they’re interacting with us. And one solution Rhonda offers, for the cases where clarification or verification is impossible, is to “Make it up GOOD!”

Meaning, if you’re going to make up intentions and reasons for the behavior of others, the LEAST you can do is make up a story that’s EMPOWERING to your self esteem.

Case in point: as many of you know, I’ve been single for a LONG time, and it’s been at least 12 months since I even considered liking a guy. Well, I met one I liked. I got all the signs a woman tends to get when a guy likes her and, scary as it was for me, I decided to give liking him a try. This was a HUGE step for me, as I have the frighteningly great skill of being as celibate as a nun for vast amounts of time when I feel that dating is out of my comfort zone… (more…)

Ah…The eternal question!

The other night, I was surfing the net and read an article about how Jack Benny not only never put a fence around his home, but that he’d even, occasionally, answer the door when his fans would come up the walk and ring the bell. Seems unheard of in this day and age, with stalkers and obsessed fans out there. But it does pose an interesting question. Two, actually:

1) What’s the difference (to you) between a “fan” and any other (non-fan) person you would meet?

2) How close do you let ANYBODY get to you? (Or: What’s your inner circle criteria?) (more…)